A mum was pushed to force her husband to leave the delivery room while she gave birth to their child when he made labour even more stressful for her – but he then abandoned his wife and their child at the hospital, refusing to see his wife until she returned home with their baby.
The mum took to Reddit’s ‘Am I the A*e?’ forum, wheres users confess something they have done to work out if they were in the wrong or not.
The woman explained her husband was overwhelmed while she was giving birth and made the experience even more stressful for her, so she made him leave.
But the dad is devastated he missed the special moment of his first baby being born.
The woman, 27, explained that her husband “gets stressed out easily” and she made him promise he could handle being there while she gave birth and be only “supportive and positive”.
But, she continued, as soon as she went into the delivery room he became “stressed out and overwhelmed,” ignoring his wife or clutching her hand so tightly during contractions that her arm went numb.
“Although I was in intense pain I saw his face, It was so red and there was a visible vein in his forehead that looked like it was about to blow up,” she wrote.
“It was not helpful at all, In fact, it was frustrating and affected my emotions negatively. But still, I was willing to suck it up then suddenly he started crying, like literally…sobbing really loud. This sent me into full panic mode.
“I found myself screaming telling him to stop several times and as a result he literally yelled back in my ear. The nurse got involved I told her to get him out of there. He tried to argue with me but wasn’t given a chance and was pressured to leave the room.”
The new mum’s husband was so upset and angry at this, he refused to visit his wife in hospital again and did not see her, or meet his child, until they were discharged.
When back home, the dad continued to “lash out” at the mum for “robbing him the opportunity to see our daughter’s first breaths”.
He even accused the mum of inventing excuses to kick him out, and claimed he should have been allowed in the delivery room no matter what.
“I got tired of arguing I told him to stop and he said he will but will never forget what I’ve cost him that day then walked out,” she added.
Commenters on the post generally agreed the mum was not at fault.
One wrote: “Not only did you not need him, he was upsetting you. That is the opposite of fulfilling your needs.
“In the end, who is in the delivery room is up to you. I imagine this is usually based on who you think will be most helpful and / or supportive. He was neither. Quite the opposite.”
Another agreed: “He was so angry at missing his daughter’s first breaths, that he chose to miss her first days or even week (however long it took OP to discharge). It feels like someone cutting their nose to spite their face.”
A third added: “He put his wife and daughter at risk with his bullshit, causing that much stress during a delivery is dangerous.”